My therapeutic and life experience has taught me that people grow through relationships and in relationships. This means that most of our problems are relational – developed in relationships with other people or sometimes because we lacked significant people and their support. For example, when a person comes to see me to work on his or her feelings of depression I am interested to know more about the relationships that may have influenced this depression (for example problems at work) and the relationships that may support him or her at that moment.
Similarly, I pay attention to the quality of the relationship between myself and the people who come to see me. This allows us to explore the various feelings present in the room and attitudes towards therapy, change and discussed problems.
This approach is also called dialogical as it invites both parties to engage in an open dialogue and to be open for discussion; to being emotionally affected by someone else; and to being present with who we are and what we feel.